I feel like I’m incredibly lucky because for the most part I’m surrounded by incredibly supportive and positive people. However, I recently have experienced a bout of cyber bullying and mostly centered around body shaming from a small percentage of people in my communities. Realistically, for every one negative comment I receive there are 15 positive ones.
But these negative ones can really get to you especially when some one takes the time out of their day to criticizes you for not having a 6 pack and not being super lean. For not looking like the athlete that you claim to be. For promoting unhealthy ideals. Yes, I got these messages the other day after posting this picture:
I posted this on instagram to show my progress with the whole 30. It wasn’t to show off, and I mostly talked about how my gut feel healthier and how I’m going to keep myself feeling this way after the whole 30 is over.
Nope no 6 pack to be seen. It’s actually been a long time since I’ve been lean enough to see them. Maybe I don’t look like your stereotypical endurance athlete because I’m no Shalane Flanagan. But I do go out there and run mileage that makes people cringe and I promote balance and self love.
So here are some things to remember when people criticize you or your body:
1. A 6 pack is NOT an indicator of health. Just because you’re super lean doesn’t mean you’re super healthy and fit. Actually, when I did have a 6 pack back when I was into bikini competition, I was essentially starving myself and completely crazed. Does that mean someone with a 6 pack is unhealthy? No! However, we don’t always know what’s really going on behind the scenes.
2. In today’s day and age it’s a lot easier for people to be cruel. It’s easy to hide behind a screen and comment on a persons appearance because even though your picture may be you, we are all still pretty anonymous online and the wicked in people tends to come because there’s something else going on with them.
3. When someone criticizes what you’re eating, remember that you’re giving your body what it needs. Okay, that may not be the truth if you’re constantly eating sweets and downing a bag of potato chips. But if you’re eating nutrient dense foods that support your body and activity level then you don’t need to be eating your plain chicken breast and broccoli for six meals a day.
4. What you do is your current best, like I said I’m not Shalane Flannagan. I do not run a sub 5 min mile, or crush Ironmans every other weekend. But I work hard and do my best, whatever you’re doing, you’re doing your best. You don’t NEED to be super fast or work out so hard 7 days a week. Who cares that someone else can run faster, you have to remember where you personally started and how far you’ve come.
And I don’t want to be cliche, but I will anyways! “Haters gonna hate hate hate.”
So brush yourself and go about your journey.