Why I don’t make New Years Resolutions

Last December, I took a big leap. I left an easy relationship (ie. not perfect) moved out of the area of Boston that I had lived in for 5 years and started over…again. Honestly, I’ve done this before because I am not the type of person to just settle if I’m not happy. I have never wanted to be one of those people that sticks with a job or a person just because it’s comfortable or easy. Sure, there have been hard times when I’m like, “Crap, I can’t afford groceries this week.” But I some how always make it through.

This is why I don’t make resolutions.

It’s a waste of time to wait for a certain day of the year to make a change. I make changes that are aligned with my goals and MY timeline, not the calendars. In the past when I have tried to make resolutions it was more like me going through the motions rather than really working towards a goal that is important to me.

What I prefer to do at the end of one year and the beginning of another is to asses how that year went and what I can work on throughout the next year. A lot of these things aren’t measurable and I don’t really know if I’m making progress until a certain situation may come up and how I react.

So what has 2017 taught me?

-I need to stop caring so much about what others think about me. It’s a huge source of my stress and it’s kept me from my own success.

I DO NOT NEED TO KEEP UP WITH THE JONES’. A lot of my friends in this industry are rocking it. They have amazing blogs and social media and are killing it. But as you can see I struggle to keep up and that’s OKAY. I have a different path, still fitness but I chose to go down a management path because it fits my end game better.

No days off is unhealthy. I did so many races in 2016, I was constantly training and missed out on some of the important things in life because I always had some race or training plan to stick to. Where did that land me in 2017? Over trained and injured so none of my races went well. 2018 I will be more selective so that I can live life.

-I love fitness, but there’s more to me than just fitness. Someone told me this year that they like me because I can talk about things other than fitness, I love musicals and ballet, I’m well read. I think I forgot this about myself because the first thing that everyone wants to talk about these days is health and fitness. How about that latest Ruth Ware book?

What am I working on in 2018?

Killing a 70.3. I’m not trying to keep up with anyone, this is for ME. I need to cross that finish line not because I’m trying to impress my followers, but because I crave it.

Reading more. Every year I set a goal to read 24 books a year, so 2 books a month. But it’s been just any book to get that number. This year, I want to read for fun, but I also want to read to grow. Whether it’s a classic I haven’t read or a self help book to help me grow, I want to read more so I can become the best version of me.

Travel more. Like most people I want to see places and learn things. But I’ve let other life things get in the way (work and races). So this year you get to see me explore the Mayan ruins, visit my family in the Philippines and traipse around Italy.

I’m excited for what the future months hold. I love that I can look back and see how much I’ve grown in a year because day to day it’s really hard to see and some times even I get discouraged. So when the clock strikes midnight on December 31, remind yourself how far you’ve come and that progress is still progress.

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Staying Motivated

Let’s talk motivation. I get this questioned a lot on staying motivated, especially, right after Halloween. The end of the year is coming and we all have parties and holidays and celebrations are coming. But that doesn’t mean that you just stop working towards your goals, if this is all about living a healthy LIFESTYLE then you should fit eating healthy and working out into the schedule. But in order to stay motivated you have to remind yourself WHY.

WHY did you start this in the first place? What is the big picture? Holiday season is only two months. What about all the hard work you just put in for the past 10?

Keep this in mind to keep going. But I know you’re thinking, there’s so many cookies and so much candy laying around this time of year. MAKE it work for you. Treat yourself to a little candy (keyword here is little) so that you won’t be tempted to over indulge in one sitting. This is why I’m a huge fan of IIFYM. You can have some candy, just cut back on the rest of the day. Want a cookie midday? Go ahead but skip carbs at dinner, and watch how many grams of fat you’re eating. In short, make your other meals as healthy as possible.images

Check your portion sizes too. I have the bad habit of standing at the treats table and just mindlessly stuffing my face. WALK AWAY. Fill a plate and find another spot in the room to chat.

Maybe you won’t get as many work outs in as you usually do, maybe you don’t have as much time. But make the most out of the time you DO have. You can get a killer work out in, in just 30 minutes. You can even get a killer work out in in just 30 minutes while you’re at home! You pigeon hole yourself to just the gym. It’s about getting creative and making time in your day. May be you have to switch your night work outs to morning ones, maybe you have to combine two in one day.

One of the things that I’ve found to keep me motivated in my off season from races, is planning my next year. I’ve already picked out what races I want to do next year (full marathon here I come!), I’ve set goals for my off season (cutting a minute off my mile time, and building up my power on the bike). Remember, try to pick goals that are not so scale and body image oriented. I feel like that’s really important this time of the year especially. If you’re like me and you started this lifestyle in order to feel good, don’t bash yourself for over doing it, or skipping a work out. Just make every attempt to do better next time and try not to use food and work outs as punishment. Fitness should be FUN.

This is my fun face.

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