It’s OKAY to not be OKAY

I tried to stay away from this topic, because it seems a bit over done and I seem like a hypocrite talking about how social media is fake while being fairly active on social media. However, Essena’s recent realization about how fake social media is, is not one that is new to me and has really started to get to me lately.
When I first started using instagram I stumbled upon a few bikini competitors and that’s when I started to also revolve my account around fitness and my upcoming bikini competition. I was so excited, I was learning so much from these girls and copying everything. This is what happens. And in my experience it started me on a downward spiral.
These girls appear to be perfect and happy and loving like and going hard and #teamnodaysoff. So that’s what I started to do and that’s what my mind set was. If you look back on my account I appear to have it together and I appear to be so put together and know it all.
But it was all a lie.
I was starving, working out too much and spending more time taking selfies in the morning than dedicating myself to my job and my health. I know we’ve heard this before. You only see someone’s highlight reel on social media. You don’t see that the daily problems that they deal with, you don’t know what’s going on in their head. The person that’s shredded is probably foggy brained from being carb depleted, the perfect mom may be stressed to the max trying to get dinner together, the girl surrounded by friends every weekend may feel more alone than ever etc.
Just because someone appears to be okay doesn’t mean they’re not. I know this because I see it all the time in my clients. They come to me and they talk and I find out behind these happy exteriors that they put out into the world, they aren’t okay. Even though they’re the most successful person in their field or they have picture perfect children, they struggle too everyday.  AND IT’S FINE. But it  can make you feel bad for not having that life instagram perfect life if yours isn’t the same.
Sometimes I wish I had the perfect pictures from the weekend and from work outs and running. Maybe that would make me more successful or social media popular. But more times than not, I’m so busy living my life that I forgot to stop and take a selfie. There are many times I’m like shoot I didn’t post a picture today or I didn’t find a clever quote. But it’s because I’m out in thereal world, not always absorbed by my phone. I’m okay with not being perfect or as successful. I don’t want to spend a half hour in the morning taking selfies when I could be sleeping. I don’t want to do shout out for shout to gain more followers. I want to be real with you, I want to inspire people but I also want to show you that you can be successful without being perfect and it’s OKAY.


Took me a couple tries to get the cute picture that I posted a couple weeks ago!


2 thoughts on “It’s OKAY to not be OKAY

  1. Jodi November 12, 2015 / 8:26 pm

    i think these types of posts are GREAT and needed reminders. I definitely follow some of those accounts that make you wonder how things REALLY are. I am with you in trying to be real and showing all sides to the story, but also still being present in real life. Thank you for the reminders that its really ok to just be you!


  2. Amber Coleman November 13, 2015 / 3:41 am

    The first thing I thought of when I read the title was Jessie J’s song “Who You Are” because in the lyrics she says “it’s okay not to be okay” … Look it up if you haven’t heard it. 🙂

    Great post! ❤


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